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Never Say the First "Yes"

Never Say the First "Yes"
Writer, 16

Everyone experiences a moment that is so incredibly out of character... If you haven't yet, you will. I used to think that I could pass up anything and have self-control. The way I see myself has changed dramatically over the past year.

Last year I started drinking, at first just with friends that I trusted. Then one day, three of my friends decided to go with one of our guy friends to some other guy's house. Maybe five minutes after we got there, our friend asked us if we wanted some beers. We said "no," but he got some anyway and gave them to us. So we drank... and drank some more. Next thing I knew, I was hitting on some guy and I was totally drunk. Well, before I knew it, I was in a bedroom. The same bedroom that I saw two others retreat into earlier that night.

Well, needless to say, we were both drunk and we had sex that night. It was my first time. It wasn't a pleasant experience at all. When I woke up the next morning, I felt like the world's worst person. I was shocked. My behavior was nothing like me. I had always been "Miss Responsible." But that is what alcohol does to a person: you lose control.

It didn't stop there. Somehow, even though many of my friends do them, I had always said "no" to drugs. Then one day I did it—I tried smoking marijuana. And I continued doing it whenever I got the chance. It's hard to say "no" once you start.

It's not all fun, though. Imagine lying to your parents all the time. That's what I've been doing for the past year. Lying and making excuses about why I reeked of smoke and alcohol. But those excuses can only last so long. I'm tired of it, all of the sneaking around and hoping that I don't get caught. But I will say it again: It is hard to say "no" after you say that first "yes."

So the best advice that I could ever give anyone is never say that first "yes."

Last Modified Date: 1/10/2001